- Leaning into vulnerability.
- Staying curious and generous.
- Sticking with the messy middle of problem identification and solving.
- Taking a break or time out if needed, and circle back when necessary.
- Being honest in owning our parts.
- Listening with the same passion with which we want to be heard.” (Brown, 2019)
Spend a couple of minutes unpacking each of these commitments, asking students to provide their insight, and clarifying any questions that they might have.
To engage students in a class discussion, consider asking any of the following questions:
- When might it be necessary to rumble?
- What’s different about a rumble compared to an everyday conversation that you might have with a friend?
- Do you think that a rumble is a positive or negative event?
- Which of the six commitments would be the most important for you to rumble effectively? Why?
- Which of the six commitments would be the hardest for you to fulfill? Why?
Finally, provide students with a list of specific rumble starters and questions that they can use in difficult conversations. These starters will help students engage in challenging conversations and increase their ability to remain open-minded and curious. This list of rumble starters and questions was originally developed and shared by Brené Brown:
- The story I make up is… / The story I am telling myself is…
- I’m curious about…
- Tell me more.
- That’s not my experience (instead of “You’re wrong about her/him/them/this”).
- I’m wondering…
- Help me understand…
- Walk me through…
- We’re both dug in. Tell me about your passion for this.
- Tell me why this doesn’t fit/work for you.
- I’m working from these assumptions – what about you?
- What problem are we trying to solve?
The Rumble Starters handout for students is available in the downloads area of this page.
Wrap up with activity with a class discussion that encourages students to think about the following:
- Rumbling requires a lot of skills, tools, and practice. What do you anticipate being the hardest part about rumbling? How can you prepare yourself to face this challenge?
- If you notice that your conversation is not going well because any of the six rumbling commitments have been broken or because you are having a hard time being open-minded, what is something that you can say or do?
- Do any of the rumble starters speak to you more than the others? If so, why?
- How might you use specific rumble starters in different situations?