What is grounded confidence?
Grounded confidence is another trait that emerged from Brené Brown’s research and consists of three parts: rumble skills, curiosity, and practice.
Grounded Confidence = Rumble skills + Curiosity + Practice
Unlike the stereotypical idea of confidence, which may be associated with arrogance or self-absorption, grounded confidence is rooted in self-awareness and practice. It involves recognizing that mistakes and “failure” are inevitable but that these are learning opportunities, having the courage to engage in challenging conversations, and being willing to step outside of your comfort zone. To develop a better understanding of grounded confidence, let’s individually consider rumble skills and curiosity.
What are rumble skills?
She suggests using the word rumble as an intention setter and a behaviour cue to engage in a real conversation even though it’s tough. Instead of saying, “Can we have a conversation? There are some things that I think we need to discuss. I know that it will be challenging, and I hope that we will both be able to brave trust and help each other lean into the discomfort”, it’s a lot easier to simply say, “Let’s rumble”.
1. Leaning into vulnerability.
2. Staying curious and generous.
3. Sticking with the messy middle of problem identification and solving.
4. Taking a break or time out if needed, and circle back when necessary.
5. Being honest in owning our parts.
6. Listening with the same passion with which we want to be heard.
What is curiosity?
Why is grounded confidence important?
If the scientific evidence is not enough to convince you, perhaps you’ll consider the advice of Albert Einstein:
“The important thing is not to stop questioning. Curiosity has its own reason for existing”.
Where can I learn more?
What will students learn?
By the end of this lesson, students will be able to…
- Describe the rumble process, and use specific rumble starters to productively engage in challenging conversations
- Understand the benefits of curiosity and how to cultivate it (i.e. learner questions)
- Recognize when they are on the judger path and choose to change pathways
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