What is involved in expressing emotions?
- Where am I? (At home – where anything goes? At work – where I have a certain reputation I want to uphold?)
- Who is my present company? (Friends? Loved ones? Colleagues? Acquaintances? Strangers?)
- What’s my goal in this situation? (To connect with friends or colleagues? To show sympathy or compassion? To persuade someone to take action?)
- Given where I am, what’s the most helpful way to show my emotions? (How much of what I’m feeling should I share, and how much should I hold back?)
What is involved in regulating emotions?
Why is it important to learn how to express and regulate emotions?
Where can I learn more?
Kids Helpline – Helping Kids Identify and Express Feelings (written for parents but can be used by teachers)
What will students learn?
By the end of this lesson, students will be able to…
- Identify and express a variety of emotions using body language, facial expressions, and actions
- Use forward-looking strategies to predict emotional experiences and create a self-regulation plan
- Create emotional distance and develop empathy for themselves by engaging in third-person self-talk
- Practice taking a meta-moment to close the gap between their “triggered” self and best self
- Support others with expressing and regulating emotions through active listening and co-regulation techniques
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