What is belonging?
“The spiritual practice of believing in and belonging to yourself so deeply that you can share your most authentic self with the world and find sacredness in both being a part of something and standing alone in the wilderness. True belonging doesn’t require you to change who you are; it requires you to be who you are.”
“recognizing and celebrating that we are all inextricably connected to each other by a power greater than all of us, and that our connection to that power and to one another is grounded in love and compassion”.
In other words, spirituality is about being connected to something bigger than us. It’s about being connected with each other and the world. Spirituality involves stepping out of a self-centered world, and into an other-centered world. It emphasizes the idea of common humanity and depends on positive relationships. If you are still uncomfortable using the term “spiritual”, then feel free to leave out this word and modify the definition of belonging to best meet your needs.
Four elements of true belonging emerged from Brené’s research:
What is the difference between fitting in and belonging?
Belonging is about being somewhere you want to be, and they want you. Fitting in is being somewhere where you really want to be, but they don’t care one way or the other.
Belonging is being accepted for you. Fitting in is being accepted for being like everyone else.
I get to be like me if I belong. I have to be like you to fit in.
What is loneliness? What’s the relationship between loneliness and belonging?
How do loneliness and belonging impact wellbeing?
Where can I learn more?
What will students learn?
By the end of this lesson, students will be able to:
- Understand that loneliness and belonging are subjective experiences that can be influenced by their mood, health, and self-perceptions
- Clearly explain the difference between fitting in and belonging
- Create a daily practice around the four elements of true belonging
- Identify behaviours, actions and words that cultivate a sense of belonging and community at school
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